What doesn't kill you makes you stronger????

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Ask a Vet with an amputated limb if they feel stronger now or before the limb was taken... I'd bet before. Injury, all injury, is by definition a lack of perfection.

What doesn't kill you, more often than not,  makes you weaker, more timid, more cautious, slower... Not stronger.

Sure, we can learn from the past, become more resilient. We can use pressure, under certain circumstances, to build resistance based strengths, like a body builder pushing back on the resistance of the weights...

But by no means is the saying: "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" an accurate portrayal of Truth, nor should it EVER be spoken to someone in pain.

The enemy comes ONLY to steal, kill, and destroy, that's why the pain/attack came, not to make you stronger but to kill you.

God's Grace brought you through but He didn't bring you to...

God's Grace can heal you too.

Selah

#LiesAboutGod

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What doesn't kill you makes you stronger????

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Ask a Vet with an amputated limb if they feel stronger now or before the limb was taken... I'd bet before. Injury, all injury, is by definition a lack of perfection.

What doesn't kill you, more often than not,  makes you weaker, more timid, more cautious, slower... Not stronger.

Sure, we can learn from the past, become more resilient. We can use pressure, under certain circumstances, to build resistance based strengths, like a body builder pushing back on the resistance of the weights...

But by no means is the saying: "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" an accurate portrayal of Truth, nor should it EVER be spoken to someone in pain.

The enemy comes ONLY to steal, kill, and destroy, that's why the pain/attack came, not to make you stronger but to kill you.

God's Grace brought you through but He didn't bring you to...

God's Grace can heal you too.

Selah

#LiesAboutGod

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The Good Will Hunting Dilemma

Do you know the problem with having a 148IQ (Genius, for those who don't know)?

You know so many things, memorize things easily, perform tasks that take others time to learn in practically no time, excel at almost everything fact based (except human relationships)...

You can do anything, be anything...

Therefore, nothing holds your attention very long. You have trouble sticking to a task long enough to see the payoff.

I've started and restarted more careers than most people have in a lifetime.

I've been:

Cart Attendant/Cashier
Western Clothing Salesman
Hat shaper/Cleaner
Pool Cleaner
Maintenance for a Summer camp
Restaurant server for five separate companies in eight locations.
Call center customer service
Call center sales
Branch/Retail banking sales
Executive Office complaints management
Policy & Procedure (P&P) writer
Freelance writer
Blogger
Audio Technician
And many other things...

I went to Jr College for six years, changed majors three times, collected 78 units, never graduated...

And after all that, at nearly 37 years old...

I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I have inklings, ideas, I'm clearer now then I was earlier in life... But I'm still totally unclear on the path...

It's like in Man of Steel, young Clark Kent is getting so many inputs he can't handle it, he runs to hide in the closet...

That's how I've felt my entire life...

You can tell me how great I am at X, Y, or Z... But it's hard to feel successful when you're this far along and you have no better ideas than you did in highschool...

I often wish I was dumber, that way I could settle down into a single career, be happy enough, go out for drinks with the boys on Friday, watch the game, etc... Normie stuff?

Being a genius has not helped me one bit...

God must have a plan but I'm not seeing it...

Here's hoping it comes soon..

#GoodWillHuntingDilema

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The Good Will Hunting Dilemma

Do you know the problem with having a 148IQ (Genius, for those who don't know)?

You know so many things, memorize things easily, perform tasks that take others time to learn in practically no time, excel at almost everything fact based (except human relationships)...

You can do anything, be anything...

Therefore, nothing holds your attention very long. You have trouble sticking to a task long enough to see the payoff.

I've started and restarted more careers than most people have in a lifetime.

I've been:

Cart Attendant/Cashier
Western Clothing Salesman
Hat shaper/Cleaner
Pool Cleaner
Maintenance for a Summer camp
Restaurant server for five separate companies in eight locations.
Call center customer service
Call center sales
Branch/Retail banking sales
Executive Office complaints management
Policy & Procedure (P&P) writer
Freelance writer
Blogger
Audio Technician
And many other things...

I went to Jr College for six years, changed majors three times, collected 78 units, never graduated...

And after all that, at nearly 37 years old...

I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I have inklings, ideas, I'm clearer now then I was earlier in life... But I'm still totally unclear on the path...

It's like in Man of Steel, young Clark Kent is getting so many inputs he can't handle it, he runs to hide in the closet...

That's how I've felt my entire life...

You can tell me how great I am at X, Y, or Z... But it's hard to feel successful when you're this far along and you have no better ideas than you did in highschool...

I often wish I was dumber, that way I could settle down into a single career, be happy enough, go out for drinks with the boys on Friday, watch the game, etc... Normie stuff?

Being a genius has not helped me one bit...

God must have a plan but I'm not seeing it...

Here's hoping it comes soon..

#GoodWillHuntingDilema

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Become not do

From 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:

As Emerson once put it, “What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.”

It's one thing to put on a smile at work on a bad day because the customer doesn't need to know about that. You got a job to do. We've all had to do that and it's ok.

It's another thing to lie to those closer to you, or worse yourself. Who you are produces what you do. If those two are not aligned it creates cognitive dissonance, spiritual tremors, anxiety breakdowns.

The solution isn't to stop doing good or well... though that's exactly what you'll be tempted to do to some the cognitive dissonance.

The solution it's to become who you were created to be. As you become, your doing gets better as a byproduct.

#ScratchTheNewLimb
#ChangeTheFocus

Darrell

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Freedom From vs Freedom ToBe

For many Freedom is understood through the lense if being free from...

Addiction
Pain
Loneliness
Him/Her
The Situation
The Job
Debt
Poverty
Etc.

So we follow the rat race seeking whatever we think will make us free. When that doesn't provide the freedom we sought, we seek another fix, and another... An endless cycle of seeking freedom but never being free.

What if Freedom has nothing to do with whatever jail you are in, however you've defined your personal jail.

What if Freedom is about becoming WHO you were always meant to be... And in that pursuit all the "other" (addiction, pain, the jails) falls off when you aren't even looking...

You don't know when you got "free from", you just look back and realize you don't have all the issues you had. You have battles in front of you but you have definitely won some battles too, and you didn't​even notice you had won.

It's as though the act of becoming a butterfly was so profound that you have trouble remembering what it was like to crawl.

People who lose a limb often experience phantom pains in the missing limb. This is because the neural pathways are still there even though the limb is gone.

Prescribing meds for the pain only serves to reenforce the pathway telling the brain the limb is still there.

The key is to retrain the brain, create new pathways, show the brain the limb is gone. To do this, the new nerve endings must be activated. Rubbing the new stump of the leg with a variety of materials, soft, hard, scratchy, etc., causes the brain to rewire and recognize the new stump, creating new neural pathways.

That's your job, and my job, now... Scratch the new limb. That's the purpose of prayer and Bible study, church, small groups, etc...

They are not dead religious activities, they are opportunities to scratch the new limb (your born again spirit).

Go scratch something...

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Freedom From vs Freedom ToBe

For many Freedom is understood through the lense if being free from...

Addiction
Pain
Loneliness
Him/Her
The Situation
The Job
Debt
Poverty
Etc.

So we follow the rat race seeking whatever we think will make us free. When that doesn't provide the freedom we sought, we seek another fix, and another... An endless cycle of seeking freedom but never being free.

What if Freedom has nothing to do with whatever jail you are in, however you've defined your personal jail.

What if Freedom is about becoming WHO you were always meant to be... And in that pursuit all the "other" (addiction, pain, the jails) falls off when you aren't even looking...

You don't know when you got "free from", you just look back and realize you don't have all the issues you had. You have battles in front of you but you have definitely won some battles too, and you didn't​even notice you had won.

It's as though the act of becoming a butterfly was so profound that you have trouble remembering what it was like to crawl.

People who lose a limb often experience phantom pains in the missing limb. This is because the neural pathways are still there even though the limb is gone.

Prescribing meds for the pain only serves to reenforce the pathway telling the brain the limb is still there.

The key is to retrain the brain, create new pathways, show the brain the limb is gone. To do this, the new nerve endings must be activated. Rubbing the new stump of the leg with a variety of materials, soft, hard, scratchy, etc., causes the brain to rewire and recognize the new stump, creating new neural pathways.

That's your job, and my job, now... Scratch the new limb. That's the purpose of prayer and Bible study, church, small groups, etc...

They are not dead religious activities, they are opportunities to scratch the new limb (your born again spirit).

Go scratch something...

Read more →