What does it mean to be a Widower?

Today was supposed to be the day my third child, Azarea, was born.

We should have a crib ready, house buzzing with the excitement of "it's time". But instead, I sit sleepless in my room, two boys sleeping but suffering from grief in their own ways. Instead of adding a fifth member to the house, we lost Mom and Baby. We are three.

That was seven months ago.

I've tried to pick up the pieces as best as I can. Make new friends for me and the boys. I've tried to make the house livable for "our new situation" as it became called. I've made many adjustments, most hard, some good. I even recently made an enemy, through no fault of my own.

What does it mean to be a Widower?

It means not wanting to talk about it anymore with people who aren't here, who haven't been here through it with us.

It means trying to make it through each day without thinking about her, when she's everywhere. She's touched everything in this house.

It means going through her things, and packing up the items We Three won't ever use.

It means smiling through the tears. It means sleepless nights and a lonely bed. It means a lack of touch, extended hugs, cuddles, shared inside jokes and shows, and household rhythms.

It means "why" repeating over and over even though you have all the why's you're going to get.

Being a Widower means living... when she didn't. It means not just saying goodbye to the person, but the dreams, shared vision, partnership, plans... The entire trajectory of life changes.

There are no pieces to pick up. There's just absence and void. You have to forge ahead, and make new memories, new plans, new dreams... but you don't want to.

It means knowing you should play a game with the kids, or clean the house, but having no will to get up and do it.

Despite all of that...........

God's been SO good to us this year. We've seen financial blessings from a variety of sources. We've paid off debts, raised credit scores. We're getting ready to buy a new home and start a new life.

We've made quite a few friends and we're making more. We've seen God bring comfort, encouragement, and gentle reminders of His Love.

We've seen God show up with a friendly text, invite to join a group, classes, courses, events...

I've personally gained more clarity on my life, what's important and what isn't. What fights are worth it and which ones aren't.

I've started college again, which she and I always talked about.

Even the enemy will come around, he just doesn't know it yet. God's Love is bigger than his hate and fear.

Someday, we may add to our family again. But that day is not today. Today, I remember what was, what could have been, should have been, and then I look forward.

The beautiful, bittersweet, Truth, is that Flavia and Azarea are my future, not just my past. Heaven is not our home, but it is our resting place until King Jesus returns. They're safely there, playing and laughing.

Someday, should it happen before I die, I will meet my King in the air, and Flavia and I will be there together. And then, at some point after that, we'll all reside on earth again, in resurrected bodies.

What a joyous reunion that'll be.

For now:

Happy Birthday Blueberry (Azarea). Flavia is taking care of you there, I've got the boys here. Say hi to my family and friends, and to Jiminy Cricket's kid for me.

Peace!


Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

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2019 Reading List

A list of the books I've been reading in 2019 (personal growth and for school).


Fiction

Author: Lauren Stinton (Affiliate Link)

The House of Elah (Volume 1)

The Alusian's Quest (The House of Elah) (Volume 2)

The King's Man (The House of Elah) (Volume 3)


Should I Choose to Die Again (The Hamal Books) (Volume 1)

The One-Eyed Man (The Hamal Books) (Volume 2)




Non-Fiction


Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box, by The Arbinger Institute

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, by James Clear

Where Is God When It Hurts?, by Philip Yancey

Elements of a Christian Worldview, by Michael Palmer

Saving the Bible from Ourselves: Learning to Read and Live the Bible Well, by Glenn R. Paauw



Author: C.S. Lewis

Mere Christianity


Author: Dr. Henry Cloud

How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back

Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life


Author: Peter Scazzero

The Emotionally Healthy Leader: How Transforming Your Inner Life Will Deeply Transform Your Church, Team, and the World 


Other not otherwise catagoried
101 Conversation Starters for Couples by Gary Chapman and Ramon Presson

Intellectual Foreplay: A Book of Questions for Lovers and Lovers-to-Be, by Eve Eschner Hogan

41 Will Come: Holding On When Life Gets Tough--and Standing Strong Until a New Day Dawns, by Tate, Chuck E.

The Hebrew-Greek Key Word Study Bible: NKJV Edition, Black Genuine Leather (Key Word Study Bibles), by Publishers, AMG



Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

Clifton StrengthsFinder: Intellection, Learner, Ideation, Achiever, Input
16Personalities (Myers-Briggs Type): INFJ

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Shots in the dark...

For the first time since my wife passed, June 25, 2018, I've decided to start writing again. Not sure if this will make it into the final cut of the novel I'm working on (Distortion, a White Noise series), but I thought I'd share the rough draft of my first words back.

***

Wet hail assaulted the thin metal roof of the RV like a barrage of weapons fire. Ash sat on the floor, back against the couch, dripping red water onto the floor, a mix of his own from a rough patch and hers... His mind was black as the room, his thoughts hidden from himself like the storm had hidden the stars.

Like the random hits of blue lightning outside the windows, images flashed through his mind of the night's events. What he could have done differently. What he could have done to prevent it. Every plan had been stunted, but they persevered, until the end. He kept coming up blank. Every alternative could have ended them here. He was lost. Blank. Mind racing on a track with no destination.

He was forced to leave Destiny’s body on the ground as he ran from the sniper. By the time he’d doubled back, the nest was cleaned and empty. Police, Fire, Ambulance now covered the scene below, they’d tend to her better than he could.

Chester looked terrified as they put the hood over his head, and stuffed him into one of the five black armored Escalades and drove off.

Escape. Run. Drive. Ash found the RV parked at the rendezvous point; now a rendezvous of one. After driving for two hours, Ash found his arms and legs shaking too much to continue. He pulled off onto an old mountain road, snaked up into the hills, and pulled over in a clearing covered by tall pines.

Now he sat. Shaking. Blank. He should be feeling… something. Angry. Sad. Something. But he just sat, staring at the small refrigerator door, the faux grains making moving patterns in his head when the lightning revealed them.


The next morning... TBC

***

Thank you for reading,


Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

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Embracing Grief - The process God gave you to heal

The following was a question from a Widow/Widower support group I belong to:

What is the most important thing you've learned about grief?

My Answer:

Grief is a process to be embraced and walked through. 

Your physical brain has developed protein structures (memories and muscle memories) that tell your body to react in a certain way.

These structures tell the leg to move when walking and they tell the body and mind to be a certain way at home with your spouse, certain expected norms.

Just as when a Vet loses a limb, a widow(er) loses something much more profound, their other half.

The new treatment for those who lose limbs is to activate the new nerve endings by rubbing them frequently with various materials (hard, soft, scratchy, smooth, hot, cold) so the brain can learn the new nerve endings. This helps alleviate "Phantom Limb Syndrome".

God gave us Widows(ers) the gift of Grief to help us recognize and process these protein structures in the brain as they relate to our late spouse. They are gone. Grief helps us come to terms with that and then continue to live a God-given fulfilling life.

This only works when we embrace the grief process, instead of burying and ignoring the process.

That's been the more precious, if not hardest, lesson I've learned.



Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

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A Memorial Message of Hope

My wife, Flavia Antoinette Wolfe, passed into Glory on 06/25/2018. This is the message/word God gave me.

Dealing with Tragedy

When tragedy strikes, we often compelled to ask questions and express doubts:
• Why?
• What if… a thousand what-ifs…
• If only…
• I should have/shouldn't have
• Can God really be good?
• Can the Bible really be true?

The answer to why is simple, hard, and totally unsatisfying: This World Is Broken. 

Sin entered the world, and through sin, death. BUT, God. So many powerful stories have a "but God" moment. Jesus came, he conquered death, and through him, our sorrow is lessened, and a drop of joy lies underneath.

"These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 New King James Version (NKJV)

You WILL have tribulation. That's just as much a promise as anything else in the bible. Trouble is here on this planet for all of us because of sin. He overcame! And Flavia has now received the fruit of that overcoming as she has been received into Glory.

God's Word

Breath of Life
Genesis 2:7
And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living being.

Dust and Ashes
Genesis 3:19
In the sweat of your face, you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust, you shall return.

The Promise
2 Corinthians 5:5-9 New King James Version (NKJV)
5 Now He who has prepared us for this very thing is God, who also has given us the Spirit as a guarantee. 6 So we are always confident, knowing that while we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord. 7 For we walk by faith, not by sight. 8 We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord.

The Comfort of Christ’s Coming
1 Thessalonians 4
13 But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. 14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus. 15 For this, we say to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord will by no means precede those who are asleep. 16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And thus we shall always be with the Lord. 18 Therefore comfort one another with these words.

My Father's House
John 14:1-3 NIV
1 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. 2 My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.

A Door In Heaven
Revelation 4 New King James Version (NKJV)
4 After these things I looked, and behold, a door standing open in heaven. And the first voice which I heard was like a trumpet speaking with me, saying, “Come up here, and I will show you things which must take place after this.”

The Great Exchange

• You: Give Him your dead life. All of it. 
• He: Gives your his LIFE. All of it.
• He takes your death, and you take His LIFE. 
• Your work is to believe (John 6:29). That's it. Believe it in your heart, speak it out loud with your mouth, and you will have it. Guaranteed - John 3:16-18

Romans 10:9-11
If you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with your heart you believe and are justified, and with your mouth, you confess and are saved. It is just as the Scripture says: “Everyone who believes in Him will not be put to shame.”

Three Keys To Remember While Grieving

1. It's not God's Fault
From here on out, do not say that God "took her". God did not take her, but he did receive her. The devil comes only to steal, kill, and destroy; but, Jesus came that we might have LIFE and life more and more abundantly.

2. Honor her: Live LIFE
That LIFE we live on earth comes in quantities. It's not simply on or off. You can have some life, or more of it, or be full of it. Even day today, you can have more or less LIFE flowing through you. And ultimately, when we go to be with Flavia, we will have LIFE in a way we cannot even fathom here.

3. Celebrate Her in memories of the good times and through living a better life because you knew her:
We do not mourn FOR her, we mourn for ourselves. We miss her. We want her back. We want her presence, laughs, smiles, hugs… wisdom. We celebrate her life, influence, and passion. We celebrate her legacy in the lives of the people she impacted, Connor and Preston most of all… and myself.

Parting thought:

Don't live every day like it's your last… live every day like it's their last.

We'll be here to talk about her for a little while, but this officially ends our service. Thank you for coming to support our family and celebrate her life.


Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

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Flavia Antoinette Wolfe (and Baby Wolfe) - Memorial Information Page

Flavia Antoinette Wolfe (and Baby Wolfe, nickname "Blueberry") passed away on 06/25/2018. 

gofundme.com/flaviawolfememorial 

Links and Contact:

Honestly, Facebook and Facebook Messenger are the best places to reach Darrell.

• Darrell's Facebook Page(s) Self & Joint
• Facebook Messenger: @darrellandflaviawolfe
• me@darrellwolfe.com
• Mobile: 208-907-1617

• Flavia's Facebook Page
• Her Art Page: Creatively Unique Artist

• Explanation of What Happened

• GoFundMe Link: gofundme.com/flaviawolfememorial 

• Memorial Photo Album
• Memorial Slide Show or on YouTube Here

• Good Grief Resources:
• Memorial Message of Hope (written)

• Jesse Duplantis: CLOSE ENCOUNTERS OF THE GOD KIND

• YouTube: Good Grief Playlist

What Happened?

For detail on what happened, click here.

If the link doesn't work, paste this into your browser:

http://www.darrellwolfe.com/2018/06/flavia-antoinette-wolfe-heres-what.html

Shared Photo Album:

I created a Google Photos album, ! Flavia Wolfe (link here), so that I could share photos of her. I'll add more over time. I made it shareable so other's could add their own photos too.

If the link doesn't work, paste this into your browser:

https://photos.app.goo.gl/t2QPRtHa7VbJezbi8


Obituary:

Flavia Antoinette Wolfe (and Baby Wolfe, nickname "Blueberry") passed away on 06/25/2018 at approximately 2:24 am PST.

• Link: Explanation of What Happened

She leaves behind a Husband (Darrell Wolfe 37), Two Sons (Connor Wolfe 13, Preston Wolfe 10), a Mother and Father (JoAnn & Rocky Sutherland), a Mother In Love (Debbie Tweedy), and a host of friends and family that loved her.

*Baby Wolfe: Flavia was about 7 weeks pregnant. That's early enough that it didn't feel real, per say, but we were getting excited. We don't know, but, I feel in my heart that it was a girl. If so, her name was Azarea Ann Wolfe; Flavia had the name picked out since she herself was about 16. If it was a boy, his name was going to be Caleb. We'd been talking about having more for years, and these names were ready to go. During the ultrasound, the OBGYN mentioned (or was it her pregnancy app?) that the baby was about the size of a blueberry. Flavia would talk about her little blueberry. I've decided to nickname baby: "Blueberry" from here on out.


About Flavia:

There's not enough room to put it all into words. I could spend the next thirty years writing stories about her, I suppose. I think the following are important to say:

• Believer: She loved Jesus. She was born again, spirit filled, and she is with her Abba/Daddy in heaven right now. She's enjoying herself, free from the weights of this world. She's raising our third child, Azarea. She's not lost. We grieve because we don't have her here with us, but we don't grieve for her, we grieve for our own hurt due to her prolonged absence. We'll see her again on the other side.

• Mom (Wolfe Pups Mom): She LOVED Connor and Preston. I know I'm biased; however, I honestly don't know that I've ever met a mom so totally dedicated to her children. Her highest hope and desire was for them. She didn't plan vacations unless it was about and for them. She stayed at home and raised them as a Homeschool Mom. When our finances forced her to work for the first time this past year, she worked overnights and early mornings just to make sure she could still raise them as a Homeschool Mom.

• Wife: She was dedicated to me. Her love and devotion through the hard times healed my heart. On Jan 6th, 2017, we had renewed our devotion to each other and had the BEST year and half of our marriage at the end. Her influence on me will carry itself through everything I do from here.

• Daughter & Family: I have nothing I can add other than to say she was a rock steady glue that held this family (immediate and extended) together. Her mom, JoAnn, was her best friend. Mom mom, Debbie, was in love with her.

• Creatively Unique Artist: She was an Artist. She spent most of her time in the craft world, trying to find ways to bring extra income to the family from home. She focused on this so much, that she never fulfilled what I know was her calling, to be an artist with works in galleries and in homes. However, she put the intensity of a fine-arts master into everything she created. Whether it was Paper Machete Piggy Banks, Yarn Dolls, Crochet Hats, or Bags... she put a level of detail and precision that went far beyond "crafter". She posted them on her Facebook Page: Creatively Unique Arts.

Getting Involved:

So many people want to help in some way. It's hard because there's only so many grocery deliveries or meals we can take before it ends up going to waste.

(1) Monetary Donations:

We set up a GoFundMe (link here) campaign in her name. The funds will be used for several things:

• Medical & Final Expense Costs
• Bills, Debts, and Unexpected Items
• School: with her gone, they'll probably go to "school" for the first time. Public school is NOT an option. So, we'll need to cover Charter Schools or something.
• Anything left over will go toward things the kids need over the next few years and maybe college accounts.

If the link doesn't work, paste this into your browser:

https://www.gofundme.com/flavia-wolfe-memorial-fund?teamInvite=fG3YEqhDKkCmqiGqDZTUVN8iCXWDvlLNeRkjqJTAL4eRqdGaU7QhFAheAGk7ar6V

(2) Other Needs:

Some would like to do something more than giving money. I'm going to list the random things we either need or would be helpful or just random things we talk about to give ideas. By no means should anyone feel like these are all needs, they're just things that come up in conversation and I've been asked to share no matter how random.

• Clothes: She always handled this and we were just talking about how the boys outgrew everything in a sudden growth spurt this spring.

• Connor: Size TBA
• He's always been a preppy kid. 
• Shoes & Hiking Boots: Size TBA
• Jeans
• Sweats / Night Pants
• T-Shirts
• Summer Evening Sweaters
• Winter Jackets
• Anything with Batman or Pokemon

• Preston: Size TBA
• He's sensitive to fabric feel. He needs things that are soft, smooth, loose fitting.
• Shoes & Hiking Boots: Size TBA
• Jeans
• Athletic Wear
• Sweats / Night Pants
• T-Shirts
• Summer Evening Sweaters
• Winter Jackets
• Anything with Batman or Pokemon

• Pokemon Cards: Packs, Boxes, Whatever you find. Just remember, there are two boys.

• Boat: We wanted to buy a boat someday, and kayaks, but short of owning them, we want to go out on them. If you are in this area and own them, we'll come with you this summer... and beyond.

• Outings: If you are in North Idaho, especially if you have kids our age, invite us out. We can't always except, but I'm going to make a concerted effort this summer to get out as often as I can. Just realize that we need time at home alone resting and processing as well. 

• TBD
• TBD
• TBD
• TBD

• *A Nintendo Switch (*2): This is a costly item, but I'll throw it out there. This was on our list to get and play together before she left. They now want two of them because I guess it turns into a hand-held? They wanted to play some new Mario game on there and the new Pokemon.

Service:
There will be a memorial service held for those of us who remain so we can celebrate her life and influence.

Date: Saturday, July 7th, 2018
Time: 12:00 pm (noon) PST
Location: One Place Church, Hayden Idaho
Directions: (link here)

One Place Church
190 Centa Ave, Hayden, ID 83835
https://goo.gl/maps/S8FHJbJrQeq

*Just behind Q'doba, across the parking lot from Peak Fitness.

In lieu of flowers (it's a three male household), send gift cards or Pokemon Card Packs:

Darrell, Connor, and Preston Wolfe

PO Box 1307

Hayden, ID 83835

Some Favorite Photos:

Shalom: Live Long and Prosper!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

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Flavia Antoinette Wolfe: Here's what happened...

Flavia Antoinette Wolfe died this morning (06/25/2018) at approximately 2:45 am PST.

For update see
http://www.darrellwolfe.com/2018/06/flavia-antoinette-wolfe-and-baby-wolfe.html?m=1

The following is meant to answer some basic questions that everyone's asking me. I'd rather send a link then type or talk it out over and over. I'll add more memories and things later as I recall or rediscover. It's a little cathartic for me, to be able to get it out of my head anyway.

The background leading up to this morning:

• On May 24, 2018, I got a text with a picture of a positive pregnancy test followed by "So... Boy, girl, twins?"

• We made appointments, got excited. Flavia was overweight but in generally good health otherwise, so-say-the-tests. However, the pregnancy hit her hard and fast. She said within a month of that test she was feeling like she did when she was six-months pregnant.

• 06/06/2018: She took the boys to get Fro-Yo, it was nice outside, they decided to walk around the block. Everything was fine, except she got tired fast.

• 06/09/2018: She started complaining of cramping and little nausea. Common pregnancy issues.

• 06/10/2018: She said her left leg was started to hurt. It was the day after work, she guessed she hurt it up and down the ladders stalking, or strained it in some way.

• 06/11/2018: We had our first OBGYN appointment. They took pictures, the baby was the size of the blueberry. The leg was hurting worse. The doctor said if it continued that she wanted it checked out for blood clots.

• 06/12/2018: Her leg was still very sore, and getting worse. We called the OBGYN, she had Flavia scheduled for an ultra-sound on her leg. After reading, reading, re-reading, all of the symptoms common to clots, cramps, and strains, Flavia was becoming convinced that she had pulled a muscle but went anyway just to be safe.

• 06/13/2018: The ultrasound was performed, they said there were not able to find any clots. Flavia was worried about returning to work and making sure her Leave of Absence (LOA) was covered. I told her not to force is, returning to work too early could cause complications. She reluctantly agreed to take more time off. She went to the Urgent Care that night. They did whatever they do, said it was a strain and told her to use Aspercream. 

• 06/13-06/24: This was a whole lot more of the same. No new appointments, but the leg was feeling better, then not, then it was, then her back was hurting from sleeping in positions that propped her leg. She was getting frustrated.

• 06/24/2018: We talked that night about our dreams for the future, our plans, making sure we focused on our areas of strength and not forcing things that don't fit us. Great talk. I went to be at her encouragement and she slept on the couch again to prop her leg.

• 06/24/2018--06/25/2019: At approximately 1:00-1:30 am PST, Flavia came into the bedroom and called my name. She was frantic. She said her leg didn't hurt anymore but she was dizzy and to take her to the hospital. She collapsed in the living room. I called 911. 

• The paramedics performed chest compressions for about 20 minutes? They took her to the hospital ER. I gathered the boys, expecting it to be a while and then follow her to the room when they got her back up and spend a long night there. 

• The boys stayed in the waiting room with a nurse, they talked about Pokemon. 

• I stayed in the corner of the ER, watching, praying, waiting. To my knowledge, they tried everything they could, for almost two hours. At no point during these interventions did she make progress or respond positively, as far as I could tell. 

• 06/24/2018/06/25/2018: At approximately 2:45 am PST, the doctor informed me that she was not responding, hadn't responded once during the entire ordeal, and he was going to stop intervention. She was pronounced deceased. 

• The boys were escorted to a consultation room. I met them there and they expected to hear she was better. There was a lot of screaming and crying when I told them she'd passed. Then Flavia's mom and dad arrived. We all went to the room, saw Flavia, everyone had their own reactions.

• Eventually, I took the boys home. Flavia's mom and dad followed and stayed for a while. Then it was clear the boys just needed space. They headed home to grieve. The boys spent today watching The Flash episodes. Flavia, the boys, and I had started on season one. We spent all yesterday watching it together. I think they want to finish out because we all started it. They also wanted the distraction. I bought them some more games for the handhelds. 

And that's now. Several people lovingly brought us food, one came and took some bulk trash for me. My mom's coming tonight on a plane. 

I know there's nothing you can say. I know you care. I know I can ask you for help when I need it. Right now, we just want to let it settle. The boys facilitate from crying to numb to distracted. We've laughed a few times, which is nice. 

Flavia is in heaven. We didn't lose her. We know where she is, we'll see her again someday. The baby is in heaven too. I don't know if it was a girl or boy, maybe they'll tell us when they complete the autopsy. In my heart, it I believe it was our girl, Azarea. I'll see both of them again someday. 

For now, we are heartbroken, sad, angry, lost, confused, shocked, living in a surrealness that makes it feel that any moment she'll walk in the door, or walk from another room, or the hospital will call and say "we were wrong, she responded"... But we will make it. Team Wolfe. We'll let you know what we need as time goes on.

Numb just ended, and I have to go cry now. Thank you for your love and support.

**UPDATE: for those who asked, the autopsy did reveal a massive blot clot inithe left leg that shot loose bilateral to both lungs. Autopsy also revealed an enlarged heart that was most likely an issue for years leading up to this, and may have caused the hormone and weight issues prior. **



Darrell

Shalom: Live Long and Prosper (in eternity)!

Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe)

Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant @ DarrellWolfe.com

Some asked:
** For the moment, you can mail things to 3403 N 4th St, CDA, ID 83815. We'll set up a GoFundMe account later, some asked for that too. Just don't have the energy to do that right now. Maybe later today or tomorrow.

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